Most of us believes that
cheating is bad. In fact, cheating is associated with many negative outcomes
such as depression, domestic violence, divorce and even homicide. Yet people cheat. So why do they
do it?
Individual
reasons for cheating
There
is a saying "once a cheater is always a cheater". It maybe because
that there are some individual reasons involves in cheating.
Gender
Men
are more likely to cheat comparison to women. The reason is testosterone. Men have more testosterone. This hormone boost sex drive.
Personality
People
with less conscientious and less agreeable
personalities are prone to cheating.
Religion
Highly
religious people are usually not into cheating. They are usually very
conservative.
Relationship
reasons for cheating
People
usually cheat when they are unsatisfied about their relationships. If they find
out someone match, they stop cheating. So, "once a cheater is always a cheater"
does not apply for this group. Researchers say, if a relationship is
unsatisfactory or the sex is unfulfilling or if there are big conflicts the
risk of becoming a cheater is very very high. The education level of a person
and the personality of a person are also important facts in this category.
Situational
reasons for cheating
This
is the next most important reason for cheating. Some people cheat even if they
don't have personalities prone to cheating or even if they are in perfectly
happy relationships. The reason is the environment. Some situations are
actually more temping comparison to others when come to cheating. Spending more
time with attractive people is one of them. The environment of the working
place is also related to the cheating. As for an example, having one-to-one
time with someone for a long period of time may lead to a cheating situation.
On the other hand, when the sex ratio is imbalanced in an environment people
are more prone for cheating. Other than that, people live in highly populated
areas or urban areas are more prone to cheating comparison to people who live
in rural areas or less populated areas. So, people who live in metropolitan
areas or cities usually cheat more. The reason is that they get more chances to
meet attractive people more often.
How
to prevent cheating
Discussing
with the partner is very important. They should discuss about their boundaries
and their own definitions about cheating. Some people may consider even going
out with an attractive co-worker is also a part of cheating. Some may say that
even a sex chat session with a online stranger is not cheating. The definition
of cheating is differ from each other. So Knowing your partner's own definition
is very important. That way the partners are able to prevent getting hurt in
the future.
On
the other hand, if you are a victim of cheating or even if you are an active
participant of a cheating situation and wish to terminate it, you can seek help
from professionally who are capable of helping you to overcome such matters.
They can offer you psychological solutions through sessions and / or perhaps
even some drug therapies most suitable to you depending on your
situation.
